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A Dream // Temporary Peace

The relationship we had lasted from the night of July 1st 2011 until May 7th 2012.
It now feels like a slightly surreal dream I must sometimes have stumbled into next to ordinary life and have now woken up from.

I remember a dazzling summer full of exhausting curiosity and heat where it all started, a warm, magical autumn bursting with colours and full of increasingly familiar bliss, and then an unusual winter, one that went by without any snow staying for longer than one day. A mild winter.
Date-wise, you could say that we have already arrived at spring now, but after a small number of very summery days some weeks ago, it has become cold and unpleasant again. During those last weeks, being together was something that seemed as a matter of course on the one hand and like a forced thing on the other hand; all the while in the waiting-line for a better tomorrow where we would finally be living in the same city again. But it never came.
The weather-wise summery spring that must now be about to come feels like waking back up to the same summer in which I must have slipped off into this long long dream at some point.

While the relationship lasted, the life I had had before, in turn, seemed like a dream. Having been without him did. Like something that was a necessary start, and a past that is rightfully a part of me and has formed me, but now no longer needed, and very far away. As if it was stuffed away in a box in the same room. It was there, and it was accessible, but no one needed to take it out and make it real except for when I told its tale to share my story and intertwine it with his through our memories.

The relationship – to me – seems like a slightly surreal dream now. And neither the relationship nor a dream ever seems surreal until you actually wake up.


[Anathema – Temporary Peace]

This fits a feeling from inside the dream. The peace and secure of falling asleep and drifting away into dreams together.

Beyond this beautiful horizon
Lies a dream for you and I
This tranquil scene is still unbroken by the rumors in the sky
But there’s a storm closing in
Voices crying on the wind
This serenade is growing colder, breaks my soul that tries to sing
There’s so many, many thoughts
When I try to go to sleep
But with you, I start to feel a sort of temporary peace
As I drift in and out


There were times you really made me smile and
There were times you really made me cry and
There were times I never really knew how to feel

Electricity, it drew you near to me
What you needed was to be rid of me
And the fear has made you so unsure of me
What you needed was to be rid of me


I still had a post with this drafted from September 4th 2011, and I reckon now is a good time to post it. It depicts one of the many feelings I have about the relationship we had very well – the feeling of finally having found C., someone very similar to me, and picking him up tenderly like the most valuable little gigantic thing there is on earth. And him being somewhat unsure, maybe a tiny bit scared, but nonetheless tame and curious and warm.

A Morning and the Forest

6:00 am

Shuffling out of bed, packing a camping mat, a sleeping bag and two blankets together with C. Leaving by bike around 6:30.






– I fell asleep in C.’s arms for a while around here –



9:39 Journeying back home


Off the street and into the wild – showing a caterpie how to rock.


After visiting the local weekly market, we met a very cute but very shy and scared dog in front of the store. I went in alone to buy some gratin cheese.

I came back out 10 minutes later to be greeted by this formidable image.

The rest of the day was spent blissfully huggling, making a potato-tomato gratin for dinner and playing Final Fantasy VIII.

A wonderful day. <3